Who are YOU...to Judge?

Judgement. It's one of those things that really needs to be addressed. Now I'm not condemning anyone because I'm quite guilty of it too, but we need to take the time out to really analyze ourselves.

In our minds, we have this ideal of how everything is supposed to be. We have guidelines for our family, friends, our lovers....and if they fall short of anything on the list, we immediately dismiss them from our lives in one way or another.

Why is that?

When did we become the "poster child" for how a good, genuine person is supposed to be? Who literally came down and told us that you are the epitome of perfection?

True enough we have our likes and dislikes, our preferences and our standards which are all fine and dandy...but why do we become so hostile and cruel when someone or something doesn't quite meet our criteria?

It seems as if we voluntarily forget that we messed up at some point in our lives. We take the things that we did wrong and somehow make them right in our own little flawless worlds.

We hold on to when people hurt us in some way but almost immediately forget how we might have possibly hurt others.

We put people on pedestals and act as if the world has ended when they do something not praiseworthy, when we, ourselves, can't handle the constant pressures being placed on one either.

We have to realize that people do the best they can do for who they are at that moment. No, everything is not going to be great and you may not agree with everything that they do...but if these are people that you KNOW and you know them to have genuine hearts then why be so quick to cast them out of your life? Why be so quick to say "I'm done with them" when in reality somebody had every right to say that in regards to you...

We are so very hard on the ones we love...so focused on keeping them from hurting us...we forget that we have that same potential to be....imperfect

Imagine if everybody left your corner the very moment you made a mistake.

You were SUPPOSED to do it "this way" but you didn't get it quite right...and now you're left all alone...imagine if no one judged you by your heart but by your sometimes confused mind.

There comes a time when we all have to take the time out to look at all the things that make us imperfect...so in the spirit of confession...I will be the first to admit all of the things I'm horrible at...

1. I'm a procrastinator to the very meaning of the word...I'm late all the time for things I shouldn't be

2. I'm not the BEST communicator in the world...I don't keep in touch with the people I love enough

3. I make some AWFUL decisions when it comes to my love life...and most times those decisions were well thought out

4. Sometimes I don't talk it out...I don't always want to hear the other side of the story because after I get mad...I don't want to be proved wrong for my actions

5. There are times that I can be funny acting and come off quite nonchalant...and I never feel the need to explain myself to anyone

6. I've resorted to lying in efforts to "help" situations

7. I've disappointed my parents on several occasions

8. I fall short of the things God expects of me almost everyday...if not every day

So you see...I'm nowhere near perfect...and I'm not too prideful to say that, YES, there is A LOT about me that I need to change. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's felt this way...

But we have to remember that the people in our lives are possibly going through the same thing...maybe they have the will to change, but no means? Maybe they need to hear a word from you to help inspire them.

We have to STOP being so caught up in pointing out the wrong things in other people when we are not aware of how many prayers had been said for us or how many tears shed for us.

FACE IT...we are NO ONE to judge the next person at ALL! Especially if they are people close to us...we all have to realize we let them in our lives for a reason...and we can't immediately dismiss them for being human and not living up to "our personal expectations".

If you ask me who I am...I'm simply Alondra. I have my pros and I have my cons and most likely I'll never be as right as I want to be...but that's okay. I can distinguish the people who truly love me from others if they accept my perfect imperfections; and I will strive to be better everyday for them and my God.

In conclusion, we have to learn to love people for who they REALLY are...if the good outweighs the bad...embrace it. Stop making huge of the small things someone did that upset you. Cherish those relationships...because they'll be the very thing that keeps you going when you fall short of your own standards.

~Alondra