How do you ever really know when is the right time to begin again?
The moment when you say to yourself...I am totally ready to let someone new in my life...
From what I've seen, it seems that moment can be confused with the mere want to move on more so than the true readiness of moving forward...
So many times we get mad at ourselves for still having some type of emotional connection to someone...that we force ourselves to someone new...we make it a point to get in new relationships in hopes that it will make "I'm over you"...more legit...more believable...
But in reality we need to ask ourselves...just who are you fooling?
A new face...no matter how beautiful and exciting it is will not replace the feelings that still linger for someone else...
It won't stop you from wanting to call, wanting to know what they're doing...it won't stop you from wanting to know if they still think about you...it won't stop you from saving pictures and cards as keep sakes for those moments when you want to reflect back...it won't stop you from answering the phone when they call and having a conversation that takes you back to places this "new" person can, in no way, reproduce...
And all the while we're in this emotional battle within ourselves, we forget that we managed to bring someone new along...we forgot that this person has to sit back and battle their doubts in hopes for a normal, happy relationship...we forget that this new person has every intention of being "the one"...not knowing that maybe "the one" is not the title they will possess...I guess just "someone" would be more fitting...
I say all this to say...before you move on...make sure that you, by yourself, have moved on...it's hard enough to fight yourself in this wat of emotions, and having someone sit back and watch as you pretend with yourself and them makes it that much harder.
Getting over is no easy process...no matter what the situation is...but at the end of the day, it is something you must do alone...that way you and someone new can both enjoy the other side blissfully. Nothing is worse that uncertainty...
Alondra
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