The Thrill of the CHASED...

Many of us women, are at a point in our lives where we are getting much more concerned about our futures. Security is one of our number one needs now. We want to be sure that we have a degree, sure that we have a job after, be sure that we will have enough to support a family...and that's where it all begins..."family".

We dream about having beautiful kids with the perfect husband...but where oh where could he be? We will find ourselves getting frustrated and discouraged in our hunt for the perfect spouse. He needs to be tall, dark, and handsome...with goals and ambitions...with love for kids...and willing to share..and so on and so forth! We will search high and low for a good, decent man. All the while we have our perfect list in mind, one that we constructed so very meticulously that we can see his face, know his name, and can vividly imagine the feeling we get when we're with him...

And then we meet someone...itching for affection and the need to feel like we're one step closer to our perfect life, we turn this someone into "him" by simply ignoring the fact that he has more negative aspects than good. He may have one of the qualities of "him"...but we know that one is definitely not enough. Yet and still, we invest time anyway in hope that as the days and months go by that he will evolve into "him". Maybe, just maybe, you can provoke a change. We put our time and energy into a forced evolution that is, to state it plainly, a FAIL.

Now here we are, one year later, heart broken and confused...feeling defeated because we can't figure out where we went wrong...

I'm here to say that after two heartbreaks and plenty of "could-have-been-great-but-just-wasn't" flings...I think I have the answer.

The bible says that "A man who findeth a wife, findeth a good thing". Read that to yourself a couple of times...pick out the subject and verb, if you will. A MAN who FINDS...never once in that does the woman do any action. So based on that alone, I say we all go wrong when we get this "Where's Waldo?" mentality.

And for the sake of discussion...I'm going to leave you with that thought...look out for part two!